Non-Resoluters: This is for You!

I have never been one for New Year’s resolutions. If you are mindful on a daily basis then you don’t really need to make a grand gesture of goals at the start of the new year, right? Wrong. At least this year. Sometimes as motivated as we are, we get stuck. We have a goal but we let fear, lack of time and many unorganized thoughts get in the way. If you are a fellow “non-resoluter” but haven’t been feeling the need for a reboot let these few tips below help get the motivation train started! (read more)

1.) Make it special. On a random week day you tell yourself you are going to finally start adding to your savings account. The next day, you go shopping and forget the want to save all together. The problem with making a small promise to yourself in passing is that it’s easy to forget, to let go of, to put off for another day. When you make your resolution special and put some time into it, it’s harder to ignore. Write your year’s goals down on pretty stationery and post it next to your mirror or place it in a pretty jar on your night stand. Celebrate your resolution with a mental “kiss” at midnight. Maybe even toast to it on your own before you head out for the night. Find a ritual that works for you and enjoy every part of it. When beginning the resolution with a bit of sparkle you will have that linger bit of specialness a few months down the road when the excitement has worn off and you find yourself letting go of your new habit or goal.

 

2.)  Find an accountability partner, who is preferably not your partner. Find a “goal-digger buddy.” Someone who will hold you to the standards you set for yourself but may not always adhere to. My friend and I did this. We wrote down our goals for the year and gave each other full permission to be brutally honest when the other is slacking. It’s like having a boss. If you have someone else to answer to you are less likely to put the goal off for the next day. A loving friend works better than your significant other because sometimes your partner is too close to your situation to give an outsider’s perspective.

 

3.) Always begin with gratitude. It’s easy to get caught up in what we lack when we begin to make a list of improvements for the next year. That was always my main issue with resolutions in the first place. “New Year, New You” feels negative and self deprecating. Instead, shoot for new adjustments to your habits but be mindful and conscious of your thoughts and always begin with gratitude and positive reflection. Even if the past year has been a complete shit storm you can look closely and find the positive moments and your lessons learned. When you start from a place of gratitude you won’t be coming from a place of need or greed.

 

Happy Resolute-ing! Here is to 2016!