Any #SuperSoulSunday fans up in here? Thought so. Ditto.
In her interviews O always asks “what’s the thing that took you the longest to learn?” For me the thing I am still learning is to how to activate my voice and speak up for myself. This week’s mantra dives into that.
Only recently have I been able to put my finger on exactly why it’s so hard for me to speak up for myself. It’s because I’ve had a lack of clarity.
As a people pleaser, confrontation avoider, and overall smoother-over, putting myself and my needs first has been a challenge to say the least. Even more than that, because I like to take an easy-going, anything-is-fine approach to most situations it’s rare that I realize that I’m not speaking up for my needs at all.
And so—enter a new practice that’s been helping me align with my needs and ultimately stand up for them.
Part 1: Align
In the morning, check-in. In the evening, check-in. I’ve started checking-in every evening in morning by asking myself these two questions:
- What do I need to feel loved today?
- What does my soul crave?
I do think it’s important not to attach to your feelings on a daily basis (ex: I feel grumpy, so that means I’ll be grumpy all day). But on the other hand, if you’re a person who tends to put others above yourself, it can be good to attach to your feelings—or more your needs—in order to claim them and ultimately get them met. As women (and you sensitive men, too,) claiming our needs can be hard to do, but when done it’s powerful.
Part 2: The Voice Box
With more clarity around what I’m needing that day, then I give power to my voice box. I left my chin up to stretch the front of my neck, put a smile on my face, and gently place my hands over the base of my throat. I say, “My voice box is a gift. I use this gift to love my friends. To love my strangers. And ultimately to love myself. I claim my needs and use this voice to do so.”
I invite you this week to dig in, claim your needs, and then be willing to ask that they be met. You’re worth it, I know you are.
My voice is a gift.
I use this gift to love my friends. To love my strangers.
And ultimately to love myself.
I claim my needs and use this voice to do so.
Have a happy & healthy week!