When it comes to intimate details about myself, I’ve always been a very open person. If someone asks me about a certain situation and I’d tell them the truth, however weird or uncomfortable it was. Maybe not all the time—I follow basic social cues and try not to be too inappropriate—but if I’m having an honest conversation with a person, close friend, casual friend, neighbor, or otherwise, I usually let the truth out when asked.
Truly, I’ve shared very intimate details about my life with people who had no business knowing them. And you know what? I’ve always been embarrassed about this quality of mine.
As open as I’m comfortable being, I’ve always understood that it was admirable to be tight-lipped. It’s a sense of pride. The person who can quietly move through their problems and not involve people who don’t need to know is strong, admirable, proper. They are private. It’s a quality to be proud of.
Because I am not that person, I always felt ashamed.
But you know what? When I look at it from a mindful approach, the above description of the prideful approach can also be one aligned with ego. Now, if you don’t want to share intimate details about yourself, that’s fine. But if you conceal it in fear of being judged for “needing too much attention” or being an “over-sharer,” maybe rethink the approach.
Couldn’t we all benefit from a little bit more honesty?
I also viewed my openness as a way to share the human experience with another. I’d tell them the truth just in case they had a similar truth and wanted to talk about it, or in case they had an perspective that could help me. Most of all, I shared because if I didn’t, I felt like I was denying a piece of myself and I didn’t like that.
If you’re open like me, embrace it. Don’t let someone make you feel bad about it, it’s a great quality and one that could use to be celebrated.
If you tend to fall into the camp of privacy, I invite you to try and be open next time someone asks you how you’re doing—share your human experience if you feel so inclined. There’s something about standing in your truth in public that’s empowering.
In either case, this week, look for ways where you can share the human experience with someone—close friend or otherwise. The world just may feel a little more open and a lot more accessible when you do.
I am open.
I share the human experience.
Have a happy & healthy week.