I spent $300 on one shirt. And though that may seem extravagant, it was that action that helped me step into the power of my own self-worth.
You’ve heard the phrase “fake it till you make it”. This is not one of those instances.
Buying an expensive shirt didn’t make me feel better just because of the price tag. It didn’t help me “raise my vibration” like some manifestation practices teach. To me spending $300 on a shirt meant that I was prioritizing my money—and my time—in a way that felt most authentic to me in that moment.
This may seem small to you but what’s important to note here, is that my actions specifically related to how I spent my money, were directly relating back to my self-worth. At the heart of it that’s what manifestations and achieving your goals is about. To strengthen your self-worth you have to first heal old wounds, then you have to take action based on that worth, (learn more about manifestation from one of my favorite teachers here).
When I started spending more money on clothes I was able to expand my self worth through these three shifts.
1.) I Took Ownership of My Time, Money, and Energy
Your time is money, and your money is an extension of your energy. I used to spend my weekly disposable income haphazardly. Friends would invite me to dinner or on a trip and I’d say yes without thinking about it. Then when the weekend was up, I had said yes to everyone else’s plans that I hadn’t left any free money for my own.
It’s not that I didn’t enjoy doing things with my friends, or that I advocate for material items over experiences, (absolutely I don’t). But what I did find was that I had to start making plans for my money before other people did it for me.
When I started making my money decisions ahead of time without prompt from others, I was able to make decisions that were aligned with my own plans for my time, money, and energy. When a friend invited me to go out to dinner but I had already planned on spending my free money on a new winter sweater, I’d suggest a hike at a local park or a night in instead.
This helped me get creative with my time instead of blindly spending my money.
I Strengthened My Beliefs
When I started setting aside my free-money with intention, I was able to spend that money on brands that felt aligned with my beliefs. Since I wasn’t just scraping the bottom of my barrel to buy a new shirt, I could invest in brands that I believed in—quality pieces that meant spending less in the long run and supporting business that were local, women-owned, and made sustainably.
I Had to Stop Settling
I’ve always been one to make the best of situations. If something worked okay, but wasn’t perfect I’d deal with it and deem it “good enough”. This usually meant that I’d get little use out of the item and end up replacing it shortly after. Because I was spending more on single items, I wasn’t able to ignore small imperfections. It might’ve meant a little more work up front, but in the end I saw the process through to get what I truly wanted in the first place instead of settling for “good enough”. By doing that, even on the most materialistic superficial level, I strengthened my ability to stand up for my worth, my voice, my own guidance.
I’m fully aware what a 600 word article about the power of spending more money on material items might sound like, but the truth is, we spend our money daily and there’s a lot to be learned from our habits around how we spend. By spending in a way that feels empowering to me, I’m able to feel empowered in decisions that go far beyond my wallet.
Happy spending, or saving, or giving—it’s up to you!