The Art of Not Settling Part 2: Self Value

Last week I wrote about The Art of Not Settling and living creatively, or making choices based on your intuition as opposed to other people’s expectations. “Not settling” begins and ends with your self value. A strong value of self gives you courage to ask for what you need and continue to work toward the fulfillment that your inner guidance system yearns for.

But what is the difference between not settling and working with what you’ve got?

In some ways, we do a disservice to ourselves when we label it value of self or self worth. As modern consumers, automatically when we think value we think about measurable, tangible signs of success. Money, a house, the perfect closet. Even the most mindful people can get lost in those material desires.

How Do I Measure My Self Value?

Yes, technically we are all “worth” a mil in the bank and a house on the hill, though a mil in the bank and a house on the hill really aren’t “worth” anything.

Think about your grade school days when you were taught the golden rule, or taught about family values. Those values are grounded in love, respect, and understanding. Those values have nothing to do with material worth. True value comes from filling yourself up from within. From freeing your inner voice and releasing self doubt. From continuing to always seek understanding and from being comfortable with the fact that you will never fully understand.

Worth is something that lives deep within your inner workings. It’s not something you have. It’s something you are. Value, when it comes to self, means that you honor your intuition, you are constantly working toward fulfillment, and your goal is always to emulate love in all its forms.

Your value is in your persistence to find peace by finding gratitude for the present.

Standing Up For Your Value

You strengthen your attention to your inner guidance system by recognizing when you need to stand up for your value. Value comes from not letting someone else guide your decisions—from not letting someone else take advantage of your kindness.

You know that monetary value is not the bottom line—but that is the currency we use to show our value in this modern material world. So, you ask for more when your time, energy, and work deserves it. And you find peace in knowing that even if you don’t get it that time, you honored your worth by sticking up for your value.

You may still live paycheck to paycheck or live in a rented house far from the hill, but if you are making decisions based on your intuition you are honoring your worth.

A strong self value is courage to ask for more when you deserve it, and courage to know that getting it is not the real gain.

Here is to your self value.