“Be quiet my love, it’s okay to say nothing,” I say as I close my eyes and remind myself to be gentle.
So what is it to be gentle? Well, to be harsh is to care too much, to overthink, to push through something without a full thought—mostly it means that you’ve gone outside of yourself for affirmation. To be gentle on yourself is to release the need to please, (yourself or another,) and instead listen to the little parts of self that ask for quiet, solitude, and care.
Do you want a fulfilling life? Stop trying to achieve your goals. I actually do mean that. Just maybe not in the way that it sounds.
I saw a headline over the weekend with an eye-catching title, “You will succeed if this is your number one goal.” It caught my attention immediately, but mostly because I was skeptical. Who is to say what succeeding is? What should my ultimate goal be, and who is someone else to tell me?
Whether it’s the full moon, or just the intensity of life, lately I’ve noticed myself falling into “the cray”—those small parts of self that get carried away by over-thinking, untruths, and too much trust in the ego.
My crazy self has taken over a time or two too much in the last week, but as the mindful practice goes, I’ve been able to witness myself engaging in those crazy feelings. But you know what? I’m here to say something I never thought I’d say. It’s time to stop being mindful. Well—at least for a minute.
If last week was an easy week, it was preparing me for this week—long. intense, and full of emotions…but that’s the full moon for you right? But even when a week doesn’t go perfectly well I take comfort in remembering that the ups and downs are part of the constant pattern we are continuously flowing through. The ups will be here again… and soon.
This weekend I am looking forward to some time with friends, a bit of spring cleaning, and mmmaybe watching that game that everyone’s talking about.
It’s purely a coincidence that the week leading up to the Super Bowl the theme of the mantra is defense. But considering I am not an avid sports watcher and knowing you definitely didn’t come here for game advice—we’re talking defense off the field. It’s the defense that we take part in daily, without realizing it.
We spent last night in a junior-high cafeteria learning how to country swing dance. You might say we danced our way into the weekend. [I couldn’t help myself.] I’m not sure what the weekend will bring, here’s to finding out.